To help a child overcome frustration it is essential to know the causes . Why does a child lose his nerves in the face of a refusal? Why not even try to complete a physical or mental challenge, assuming that it will not work out, giving up without having tried or giving in to the first failure?
We do not know why but it surpasses us and sometimes we can treat him as spoiled or lazy. We can blame him that he has no interest or patience. But before making judgments, we should know why a child can be frustrated to the point of exploiting or giving up.
It is normal for them to feel that as they grow up, watch out, but you have to help them learn from those moments of anger, show them that they can channel their emotions, control them to their advantage. Relativize to be centered. Nothing is as important as your own well-being .
Let’s now look for the causes to face the problem. The child psychologist and author of several books on parenting, Penelope Leach , makes an accurate classification of the reasons that cause frustration in children. Pay attention:
Grown ups
Of course, when doing something means a danger to the child or to others, it is necessary to say categorically that no, whatever it is, but there are many times that for our own convenience we prohibit things that may not be serious . You have to know how to balance and not overly frustrate the child. He also has to experiment and we must be permissive when possible to avoid blocking the child from so much negative and excessive care.
Other children
Children live centered on themselves and it is normal. They are self-centered by nature. Time and education are making us more supportive and respectful with others, but until that moment the little one is going to take the toy from his friend without any contemplation making the other cry desperately. At that moment is when we as parents or educators have to mediate to find a satisfactory solution for both. As always, a lot of patience and affection are the key to prosper in this learning.
The objects
This frustration is that of “I can’t.” His size and maturity sometimes prevent him from doing what he wants, and everyday life is full of obstacles : from sitting in a good chair to dressing alone. Once again we have to act by helping him, not by doing things to him, because if not, he will never learn. You have to give him a hand and reassure him, give him confidence and security so that he keeps trying until the least expected day he succeeds. Calm down, he’s learning that objects don’t always react the way we want them to and it’s a sign of maturity that he does.
Age and size
“You are too small for…” or “You haven’t arrived yet…” are phrases that frustrate the child who is not yet aware of his size and sees how others do things and he cannot. It is essential that their games and toys are appropriate for their age, giving them things as adults can make them feel that they do not know and think that they are stupid. You have to take great care that the activities you have within your reach can be carried out and gradually overcome. Mastering his environment is very positive psychologically for him.
