Unfortunately, it is common today to hear bad words anywhere. Our rhythm of life makes it impossible to completely isolate the child from expressions inappropriate for him and, make no mistake, they often hear them in their own home. From infants children learn to explore, listen and remember everything that happens around them and they are like sponges that absorb and imitate everything they see and hear.
Listen and you will be surprised
Often any swear word is just a new word that the child did not know before and that is why he likes to repeat. When hearing as parents, for the first time, inappropriate words from our children, we must bear in mind that children do not really think in the sense of the word , but in the sound or tone with which it is pronounced.
Therefore, in such a situation, scolding the child is not recommended . We must first act calmly, explaining to the child that the word he has said is not appropriate and trying to replace it with a different one. Second, pretending that nothing has happened, but for this we must not forget that laughing or being surprised will only make us give even more importance to the matter and it will seem to repeat the expletive something funny. In any case, it is essential not to provoke feelings of shame in the child.
Emotions you can’t express
Swear words seem to have some special attraction and that is why children believe that saying these kinds of words is fun , but sometimes they can also be used at times when the child is not able to express his frustration or anger, or even sometimes positive emotions. Example: when you do not agree with a punishment or we have not bought what you wanted.
The child, who is already aware that swearing is something negative, resorts to them to punish his parents in some way for not having gotten away with it.
An easy solution is to try to expand your vocabulary and replace a bad word with a good one , and repeat it several times in different situations. It must be explained to him that older people use bad words only in extreme cases, and that he has words to spare to express himself and discharge his frustration in another way.
Try, on the other hand, to always help him express what he feels so that he does not have to reach that extreme of frustration so high.
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The Boomerang effect
Many children repeat the swear words they hear from their parents or other acquaintances, and so we must pay attention to how the people around them speak and how they treat the child. In any case, it is not necessary to worry or obsess too much, since what is said at home will always prevail before the child over other external opinions.
It is important to monitor a little how the environment around the child is with respect to people, but also around the things he sees on television or the movies he likes. You, as a father or mother, are in charge of ensuring that the content accessed is totally recommended for him and that these cannot have a negative effect on him. But as parents we cannot become security guards for our children, and the only solution to this is to give our children confidence, and remain safe from our own example. After all, children dream of looking like their parents or siblings, who are their heroes every day, and this will be reflected sooner or later in their behavior if there are strong and positive ties between everyone at home.
Sometimes our children, with their words or behaviors, only seek to relate to others and socialize , although they have not yet found the true key to success in this field, which is nothing other than being oneself and being natural. Try to make him understand that people who are really worth it, know how to respect others and accept them as they are.
Little tricks
Things change when the child is fully aware of what he is doing and saying. If you think the child is doing it to break your patience, stay calm no matter what . In the use of bad words, the child is trying in these cases to assert himself, refusing, for example, to go to sleep at night or to bathe. If your child calls you an “idiot” or “stupid”, in situations like this he responds with “That’s not true, I’m smart.” Although it may seem ridiculous, it can be a very effective trick, which will also serve to defend yourself in case other people or children interfere with bad words as well. Do not forget, in any case, that young children when they observe that something they do or say is not paid attention, they lose interest in it.
If the child is using curse words not only at home, but also in public places, take him aside and say something like, “We can’t say that.” If the problem persists, tell him directly: “we are going home”, and he will understand that it is really serious to have such inappropriate behavior.
