Sometimes, more than about how to talk to children to reinforce their self-esteem, it would be about not ending it. This means that young children, originally, do not usually lack self-esteem , and that it is precisely external stimuli and dealing with adults that can lead them to acquire complexes and certain insecurities.
And, although it is true that we cannot control our children’s world in those hours when they are not by our side, we can do a lot on our part when speaking and communicating with them.
The rush, the bad mood of the day to day caused by stress, or the fatigue itself, make us not pay much attention to the things that the little ones tell us or, worse still, in those that we tell them. However, being attentive to these words and applying a series of appropriate guidelines and phrases can do a lot not only for children, but also for the way in which they relate to others and for the environment that is breathed at home .
Smart phrases with which to address the little ones
- When reinforcing and applauding a new achievement or skill, avoid talking to the first person plural and remember that the achievement belongs to your child and nothing else: how well you did it alone!
- Worry about the child’s day-to-day life and let him know : how have you been at school? How are you today? How are you doing with your teammates?
- Patience is not one of the abilities of a child, and that is why it is very important that we know how to be there to accompany them in their “failures” . When they fall on the floor or their homework goes wrong, encourage them to keep going and make them understand that we all make mistakes: “I trust you” “try again, you’ll see how it will work out better”.
- Never compare them to other people , whatever their type. Focus on the progress and progress of your children and remember to give positive reinforcement about it, no matter how bad it turns out: “You have done much better than yesterday, you progress very fast!”
- Accept your mistakes as an adult and be able to apologize to your children when you know that you have disappointed them or have not behaved well with them: “forgive me, son, I love you very much.” This, in turn, will make them understand that asking for forgiveness is not something to be ashamed of in life, quite the opposite.
And, above all, do not forget that it is not about lying or flattering, but about practicing positive reinforcement (a fundamental basis for self-improvement and self-confidence), always carried out from love and respect towards your children and towards others.
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