Some of the most serious problems parents and children face arise in the schoolyard , in the form of squabbles or fights between peers. It is an issue that worries both children and adults a lot, but that cannot always be controlled, since children always end up escaping the gaze and surveillance of the elderly at some point. Therefore, the important thing in this regard is to provide the little ones with the necessary mechanisms to socialize in peace , and thus avoid fights and problems, as well as having enough tools to control and stop them in case this type of events occur.
Strategies to apply when a child is teased
In today’s article we want to give you some very effective strategies that can help children cope with these types of verbal violence problems at school . How can we equip our children to face teasing or conflict with other children?
- Calm and decision. Teach your child to be confident in the face of bullies, to hold his head high, and to look into his eyes. The child must understand that this is absolutely inappropriate behavior, and with a firm and calm voice should try to say something like: “stop, you’re bothering me.”
- Try to ignore. Often many children with lack of self-esteem, or who seek to attract attention, believe they find fun in acts in which other peers are annoyed and their well-being is disturbed. In this sense, we must educate children to unanimously condemn this type of behavior and respond to it by ignoring it. We are aware that ignoring bullying is not easy, but with perseverance and with the support of everyone, the bully will end up understanding that it is neither something that can be done, nor something that is funny.
- Encourage dialogue. We should teach children to respond to an insult with a question and never with another insult or attack, such as, “Why did you say that I am stupid? Why did you say that about me? ”
- Express emotions. Children must learn to express emotions for the better, but especially when it is for the worse, that is, when something disturbs them or makes them feel sad or attacked. The child must be taught to handle the bully with phrases such as “I want to” firm and convincing way. With these types of phrases, the child whom another decides to bother may express that they do not feel comfortable with that attitude and that they should stop doing it. Think about how to help your child in this regard so that he can find a phrase that matches the attitude of the bully.
- Laughter at the mockery. When the responses are not in the form of teasing or counterattack on the part of the bullied child, the bully often stops teasing because he understands that his words are not having the desired effect in the least. Maintaining a positive and firm attitude towards this type of attack will be essential so that the victim does not fall into the game of responding offended, which could perpetuate and aggravate the situation of harassment.
Responding intelligently to disrespect, in most cases, is always the key so that a situation of harassment does not last over time.
It’s excellent .. the strategies you share. Our children of today face more ductile challenges every day, we must give them ideas so that they learn to face them with maturity.