Parents are a reference, having them close is fortunate and enjoying their advice and unconditional affection is the best thing that can happen to a child … Unless this father or mother is not around, but flies over him preventing his movements and nullifying his initiative, like a helicopter.
Taking care of and being aware of a baby or young child is logical and instinctive. They need our attention and protection because we are born vulnerable and defenseless. When the child grows, the natural thing is to let go of the rope and move away little by little so that the child begins to develop his autonomy , the same that we must instill daily while we teach him and let him do things on his own, although at first cost you. Only then will he learn and feel capable of facing the world, because sooner or later he will have to live it alone.
However, there are parents who, whether for emotional, psychological or due to some traumatic event they have suffered, go against nature, increasing their protection as the years go by until they anticipate imaginary misfortunes that, they say, are going to pounce on their little ones. , thus not letting them experiment or something even more necessary, preventing them from learning from their mistakes . It’s okay if they stumble or make a mistake, this is natural and necessary, but helicopter parents see it normal to intrude on the lives of children and later adolescents, slowing their development and restricting their freedom.
This plague phenomenon of today’s society is, unfortunately, increasingly present, so it does not hurt to see the harmful effects that this attitude has on children.
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Consequences of acting like a helicopter parent:
1. Anxiety
Helicopter parents convey their constant concern to the little one, making him believe that the world is a hostile place and, furthermore, that they are not and will never be prepared to face it. How can they not be anxious about this situation?
2. Depression
They have no motivation as they do nothing for themselves, not even thinking. This lack of initiative and enthusiasm can easily lead to depression.
3. Low self-esteem
They feel at all times that without their parents they could not live, that they do not know and that they are incapable of deciding or acting. It is obvious that his self-esteem is low.
4. Delayed learning
They are limited and restricted at all times by what could happen, therefore it is logical that they take time to learn concepts that other children experience and live in the first person.
Behavior problems
His nervous personality makes him easily frustrated and even react violently at some point. It is not very participatory and fearful. The fear of rejection or mistake is very great and conditions their day to day. This affects him at school and in his immediate environment.
5. Difficulty in socialization
Helicopter parents are to blame for the overprotected child not knowing how to relate to other children and almost anyone. Shy, withdrawn and insecure, they have a lot of difficulty making friends, let alone entering a new group. Be careful because they are perfect victims of bullying by their peers.
Remember that your child should live knowing that he has you close, when he needs you, but not above him: his life and his experiences are his , not yours. And no one teaches someone else’s head, you have to fall to learn. It’s the healthiest thing that can happen to you.
Excellent articles, very helpful to guide our children and students and achieve a comprehensive training for them … I love it …