It is believed that there are multiple models of fathers and mothers , which does not mean anything other than the different way in which they exercise their fatherhood and their role in front of their children. These classifications, which sometimes respond to psychological or social criteria, but also to somewhat more banished stereotypes, are always good for being able to recognize ourselves as adults and analyze the role that we are developing in raising the little ones.
It is not about recognizing ourselves in an exact model, but about knowing and drawing conclusions about what we really want to do and be in front of our children. Different types of fathers and mothers, or different ways of relating to children.
Take a look at some of the hottest models!
Styles and Classifications of Moms and Dads in Parenting
- Vintage parents
This type of parent, as a fundamental principle, demands blind obedience in the strict line that many parents of yesteryear showed. They make frequent or continuous use of punishment, the home sometimes resembling a military barracks, rather than a family home. They are generally very uncommunicative and you will never hear them say, or very rarely, words of encouragement, pride …, much less affection towards their sons and daughters. The favorite phrase of this type of parents is: “because I said so, period.”
Your children, even if they are eventually educated in obedience, will almost certainly also have developed a high level of stress and anxiety.
- Parent colleagues
Nowadays they are the ones we find the most, and they really produce a lot of tenderness when they are with their children . They are very understanding (sometimes too much), and already as children they consult everything and give everything to their children: if they want this or that thing, if they prefer to go for a walk or stay at home, etc. When their children grow up, they join the group of their children’s friends as one more, they may even go to party with them or allow certain inappropriate attitudes in order to “stay cool.” One of the favorite phrases of this type of parents is: “I am the best friend or the best friend of my children.”
It is possible that these types of parents cannot be reproached for affection, but their children will grow up with a significant lack of limits, which in the long run can have more negative than positive consequences.
- Ecological parents
When their babies are still small, these types of parents can already be easily identified: they use recyclable diapers and do not feed anything that is not “green-eco-bio”, or even vegan-vegetarian . This type of parents bet one hundred percent on breastfeeding , and they tend to extend it a lot in time, which sometimes collides with social conventions. They also bet on a diet based on vegetables and are reluctant to eat meats, generally due to their high sense of justice with respect to animals. The favorite phrase of these “eco” parents can be: “that is harmful for my children”.
Although this type of parenting does not present, a priori, any negative element, it is true that it can end up restricting the freedom of choice of the minors with respect to such important issues as diet or a healthy lifestyle.
- Deified parents
This type of profile usually responds to separated parents . Regardless of the life and education they have had with respect to their children in the past, the separation makes them end up reproaching their children for things from the other parents, and believing that they are above the opposite and that the other or the other they do everything wrong.
These types of attitudes are very harmful for children, since the drama that a separation often entails for children is compounded by the lack of respect and educational coordination. A typical phrase of these parents can be: “do not even pay attention to your father / mother.”
Children who grow up in these types of roles will end up wanting to escape from the family bosom, or will eventually feel the need to take sides, which is always a drama for a child and an emotional wound.
- Picky parents
These types of parents love their children so much that they tend to be irrationally overprotective . This can be observed from birth, when they do not stop reading labels or asking the pediatrician about the advisability of one type of baby food or another, about how to put on or adjust the diaper, about the type of parents who make up the care of their children… Anything can be a source of anguish for these parents, who will undoubtedly lead the increasingly common WhatsApp groups in schools.
These parents will be addicted to mobile phones, which they will use primarily to find information on how to educate or care for their children correctly. They will tend to think that they do not perform their functions well, which can generate a very disconcerting uneasiness, especially for new parents.
They are often not recognized by any particular phrase and run the risk of not letting their children evolve.
- Hearty parents
This type of father and mother have developed the idea that children manage to survive any type of situation , without the parents generally having or having to intervene, because this way of acting makes them strong children and immune to pain. These parents will let their children fight in the park in order to solve their conflicts and they will not be very fond of picking up or carrying children, much less when they have fallen. One of his typical phrases is: “nothing happens”, and this type of attitude can make it difficult for your children, sooner or later, to learn and recognize their own emotions.
Let’s not forget that the little ones need the attention and affection of their parents, and that they still do not have enough tools to solve any problem or circumstance that may arise on their own.
In general, there are many more types of parenting, but we must always take them into account as simple models, without this affecting us personally. A form of entertainment and observation, about what we really want and do not want for our children. Perhaps, in the measure, the middle ground is found.
And you, what kind of father are you?
